Hey! I can give you a few tips to help you go in the right direction but it’s up to you to do the work. In all honestly, it’s a lot easier said than done. If you really want to love yourself, you can do it!

1. Treat others with love and respect. Bringing joy to other peoples’ lives will help you find joy in your own. In addition, those that you treat well will likely repay you with the same kindness. Gradually you will start to feel your worth through the smiles of gratitude. However, don’t just be very kind to people so you can recieve royal treatment.
2. Post positive statements up someplaces where you will see them each and every day. “I am beautiful.” or “I have the courage to love.” Read them outloud, every day, at least once, ideally at least ten times each time you notice one of them. Sticky notes are fabulous for such affirmations and goals.
3. Learn to let go of past events. You deserve a fresh beginning! There are a lot of people out there that have had hard lives/bad beginnings or moments. Don’t close yourself out of grief, disappointments, or fears of future ridicule. Acknowledge your feelings, but work to put them behind you. Cherish what you have learned from your challenges, and how you have changed and grown from them.
4. Do what you love. What do you love to do? If you could find something that you love to do and spend time doing it, you will experience love, joy, and happiness in your heart. That is when you truly connect with your authentic self. As a result you become happier and more loving.
5. Trust yourself. Don’t just blindly follow other peoples suggestions. Learn to trust who you really are.
6. Forgive yourself. Don’t punish yourself for something you have done in the past. Instead, look at the mistake as a learning experience. Say to yourself now: “I forgive myself for _______.” Go look in a mirror and say it out loud to yourself, look yourself right in the eyes and speak forgiveness like you mean it. Don’t ever demean or ridicule yourself, or if you do then laugh realizing that was then and this is now. Every day is a new beginning.
7. Think of five positive words that describe you. Try not to use words like “pretty” and “nice”. Try variety.
8. DON’T Define yourself by what you’ve done or do. Celebrate your accomplishments but let go of the things you haven’t…yet? Remember that success is not a destination. Success is making progress (toward the desires of your heart). Accept yourself, and others will follow your lead. You are not your deeds, appearance, or bank balance.
9. Start working toward how and what you want to do and be. Do so with a positive attitude by working toward your higher purposes and greater appreciation of your problems as motivating your finding new and better opportunities.
10. Stop comparing yourself to others. Everyone on this earth is unique. We all have different gifts. When you compare yourself to others, it makes you feel bad about yourself. When you compare yourself to others for what they have, whether it is a car, a house, a mate, children, money, or a job, it makes you feel low self esteem, lose your confidence, and perhaps depressed, envy or jealous. A way to stop comparing yourself to others is by focusing on your own strength. Get to know yourself and discover what is your greatest gift that you are meant to share with the world. Another great way is by practicing gratitude. Be happy for what you have. Really be grateful about everything that you have; people in your life, job, relationships, material, etc. Gratitude keeps your heart open to love.

Hope some of those will be able to help you! When I truly wanted to love myself, the first thing I did was I turned off those negative messages I would tell myself. Also, I hung up a picture of myself on my mirror from when I was a little girl. She is so cute and innocent. I want her to live a happy healthy life, I do everything in my power to give her that. Give that little kid in you a good life. Small steps in the right direction is all you need to get there <33

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